www.PrevAIDS.org - Confidence, faithfulness, lucidity and HIV
Nobody will discuss the beauty of confidence, the beauty of love and the beauty of faithfulness. The question is in another field...
Just admit that we have to deal with what the world is and not only with what the world should be.
Millions of faithful people HAVE died, ARE DYING AND WILL DIE of AIDS because they HAVE misunderstood OR STILL MISUNDERSTAND NOW that even “the best” partner can fail one day, one hour, one minute...
We are not equal considering the sexual temptations and sexual opportunities. Some have very strong desires, some others not. Some have to face very strong temptations, some others not. Some have unspeakable frustrations, some others are never shy and do not have unspeakable desires, some accept easily to confess the most severe mistakes they did...
For some people, their job, the culture, the sport or their religious convictions can be passions that make them forget the impetuosity of sexual desires but for others, there is nothing strong enough to forget the sexual temptations and attractions.
Be always mentally able to understand and accept that your partner wants to confess to you something that you never expected from him (and that he often regrets...)
Don't make your partner afraid to tell you the truth by expressions like "if you are unfaithful, I will never forgive you” or “I will leave you”. Your partner will definitely prefer to keep quiet and not to tell you anything in view to keep your love and affection.
If you notice that your partner is avoiding having any dangerous sexual practices with you ... do not ask him too many questions. Just let him/her speaks by him/herself. Appreciate that, at least, his/her love is still strong enough to protect your safety even with the fear of your embarrassing questions. If you want to know the truth, later, long time later, just try to make him comfortable to tell you what is always difficult to tell to a partner. That day, you will discover the real quality of the love between you and your partner. Love that skips away such deep discussion is fake love.
If you want to stop to use condom with your new partner, do not ask too many questions about what he/she did before knowing you... he/she sometimes does not like to speak clearly and completely about that period. If he lies in his/her answers to your questions, safety is at stake. Even the best partner can lie or hide some sexual episodes of his/her past because he/she loves you and is scared to lose your love, because he/she forgot about it or because he/she is shy (sporadic experience in brothel, sporadic homosexual relation,...). Your partner will surely appreciate that you give him/her the liberty to speak or not to speak about his/her past. If you want to stop to use condom, click here to read the best and safest way to do it.